In about 5 months, if all things go well, I will be someone's wife. When that time comes, there will be somewhat significant changes and it's not just gonna be "miss hani" to "mrs. nathan blythe". If I may say so, the changes have been taking place ever since I committed myself to Gruffy, in terms of relationship. But of course, the more serious ones come gradually as the status of our relationship progresses towards the lifelong commitment, like marriage.
I enjoy the process of planning our wedding receptions, especially when one of it is going to be held quite differently. It's a lot of pressure, I can't deny that but it doesn't take the excitement away, not even one bit.
But the receptions are as far as that celebration will go, if vows that were said and promises made are taken lightly as soon as the whole event is over. Reception is for a day, marriage is for life - I'd like to be married to one guy and one guy only. And I hope that our lives together will be as great as how we plan our receptions to be.
I know that different people have different ideas of how life should be lived and when certain occasions should take place. I had plans of how I wanted my life to be too - I still do. But there were some alterations made. And alteration, or rather change is the key word here.
It does not mean that I am throwing away those plans down the drain just because the plans I had couldn't be carried out due to the changes that are taking place. But I simply have to alter them so they fit just fine in the new plans.
Hence the reason why I think I am so fortunate to have found someone who supports me and motivates me to keep living the dreams as much as we both could afford to. Apart from having to move to a different country in the future and leave loved ones and familiarity behind, I don't think I've ever had to make big sacrifices. And with leaving loved ones, I won't really use the word leaving. It's more like moving out and moving on, the way I did when I first started working.
When people ask stuff like "aren't you going to miss your family?", well of course I am going to. But it's tough to explain to people or justify how I see things. I could say that because I'm used to being apart from them - I was in boarding school for 5 years, went to college then went overseas and got posted far away from home. But that's not really the case. It's a factor why it's easier to accept but another factor is that because I know that my parents are happy with how I turned out and it doesn't matter how much they still think I'm their baby girl, I'm all grown up and they have to slowly let go. And they have.
Letting go does not mean that the bond is broken, if anything, I think the bond gets stronger because we now share views as adults and talk about stuff as adults. Of course they can't avoid talking to me the way they did to a 5 year old sometimes, but the relationship has blossomed more and more and like I said, gets stronger each and everyday.
Of course there will be things that people think I'd miss out on after I become someone's wife. But come to think of it, I've never been that much of a social butterfly - if that's what they meant. As for career path, I actually know that I will get to do what I really want to do. I love teaching, it's one of my greatest passions. But I also have a greater one. And Gruffy has been a big part of it progressing from being just a dream and a wish to something that's going to be real.
I am ready to settle down. I know it's not gonna be easy and as lots of experienced people have told me, there will come a time when things will seem shady and you'd start thinking about what-ifs. But if you make it through with your partner holding your hand and walking by your side, it's meant to last a lifetime.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment. Bring it on.
I enjoy the process of planning our wedding receptions, especially when one of it is going to be held quite differently. It's a lot of pressure, I can't deny that but it doesn't take the excitement away, not even one bit.
But the receptions are as far as that celebration will go, if vows that were said and promises made are taken lightly as soon as the whole event is over. Reception is for a day, marriage is for life - I'd like to be married to one guy and one guy only. And I hope that our lives together will be as great as how we plan our receptions to be.
I know that different people have different ideas of how life should be lived and when certain occasions should take place. I had plans of how I wanted my life to be too - I still do. But there were some alterations made. And alteration, or rather change is the key word here.
It does not mean that I am throwing away those plans down the drain just because the plans I had couldn't be carried out due to the changes that are taking place. But I simply have to alter them so they fit just fine in the new plans.
Hence the reason why I think I am so fortunate to have found someone who supports me and motivates me to keep living the dreams as much as we both could afford to. Apart from having to move to a different country in the future and leave loved ones and familiarity behind, I don't think I've ever had to make big sacrifices. And with leaving loved ones, I won't really use the word leaving. It's more like moving out and moving on, the way I did when I first started working.
When people ask stuff like "aren't you going to miss your family?", well of course I am going to. But it's tough to explain to people or justify how I see things. I could say that because I'm used to being apart from them - I was in boarding school for 5 years, went to college then went overseas and got posted far away from home. But that's not really the case. It's a factor why it's easier to accept but another factor is that because I know that my parents are happy with how I turned out and it doesn't matter how much they still think I'm their baby girl, I'm all grown up and they have to slowly let go. And they have.
Letting go does not mean that the bond is broken, if anything, I think the bond gets stronger because we now share views as adults and talk about stuff as adults. Of course they can't avoid talking to me the way they did to a 5 year old sometimes, but the relationship has blossomed more and more and like I said, gets stronger each and everyday.
Of course there will be things that people think I'd miss out on after I become someone's wife. But come to think of it, I've never been that much of a social butterfly - if that's what they meant. As for career path, I actually know that I will get to do what I really want to do. I love teaching, it's one of my greatest passions. But I also have a greater one. And Gruffy has been a big part of it progressing from being just a dream and a wish to something that's going to be real.
I am ready to settle down. I know it's not gonna be easy and as lots of experienced people have told me, there will come a time when things will seem shady and you'd start thinking about what-ifs. But if you make it through with your partner holding your hand and walking by your side, it's meant to last a lifetime.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment. Bring it on.
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